Unfortunate Circumstances
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Alright, I had origionally planned on attending Dragon Con with my leather working; however, now I am not sure what may transpire in the next few weeks. I am 2 weeks from being out of Paramedic school and am stressed to the max so I havn't had much time to think or worry about anything else.
My problem is that I originally was planning on going with my fiance, but now I am newly singled and have no one to attend with. I am not sure about going alone and I can't seem to vibe up any interest with anyone else around here...what should I do? Should I suck it up and just go? Just not sure because it makes me nervous to go so far away by myself but I really do want to bring my leatherworking out because I am so proud of it. Would love some creative feed back on this or something of the sort :(
My problem is that I originally was planning on going with my fiance, but now I am newly singled and have no one to attend with. I am not sure about going alone and I can't seem to vibe up any interest with anyone else around here...what should I do? Should I suck it up and just go? Just not sure because it makes me nervous to go so far away by myself but I really do want to bring my leatherworking out because I am so proud of it. Would love some creative feed back on this or something of the sort :(
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Date: 2009-07-13 10:07 pm (UTC)I'd suggest going by yourself unless you you think you really will be miserable. It sounds like no one you know is going either, so being alone in a group of 80,000 plus attendees could be intimidating, or it can be a great oppurtunity to make new friends - I actually have made many new great friends while cosplaying :D.
You don't say if you are male or female, but there's a great strip club not far from DCon too.
Hehe
Date: 2009-07-15 07:04 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-07-13 10:13 pm (UTC)And if you have a particular fandom you follow, you could post here and ask if anyone would like to meet up for lunch or supper one day to discuss your favorites.
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Date: 2009-07-13 10:17 pm (UTC)Personally, it sounds to me like you could really use the D*C vacation. :-D
Yeah
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Date: 2009-07-13 10:35 pm (UTC)I have gone alone every year (being chronically single as I am). On top of that, I'm also very shy. Regardless, I still have a great time and actually speak to a few people here and there.
Look at it this way. In a few months, after things have settled down, if you stay at home you'll kick yourself as you realize all the fun you missed out on.
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Date: 2009-07-13 10:52 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-07-13 11:00 pm (UTC)After all... we're all friends at dragoncon... we just haven't all met yet.
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Date: 2009-07-13 11:02 pm (UTC)Go go go!
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Date: 2009-07-13 11:55 pm (UTC)1. Hang out in the Hyatt bar after you arrive. Ask if you can sit with someone and then start talking. The Hyatt bar is awesome like that.
Alternatively stand in front of the Hyatt elevators and make small talk about how long the elevators will take by Sunday. It doesn't matter if you have no clue how long they will take. It is a favorite subject at Con.
2. Based on fandom interests see when meet-ups are planned and attend those.
3. Send some messages to people in this community like, "Hey could I go to dinner with you people on Friday," or "so, when are you going to the chick-fil-a." Trust me almost everyone goes to the chick-fil-a (or at least the food court).
4. Come walk in the parade with a group.
The main thing is once you get your badge and booklet, sit somewhere and decide things you want to do. You will be busy and meet people, as long as you leave your room. Do not stay in your room because you don't know anyone. Just strike up conversations---everyone is really friendly.
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Date: 2009-07-14 12:54 am (UTC)Every year --
Here's one suggestion: contact
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Date: 2009-07-14 04:27 am (UTC)So seriously, if you can, go. I can assure you we go with a group (anywhere from 3-10 people) and over half the time we are all doing our own thing so its like we're solo. So don't worry about being there alone, just be careful if a stranger hands you a drink and have fun.
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Date: 2009-07-14 02:22 am (UTC)So go. If you still need to settle things to attend, check out roomshares (http://community.livejournal.com/dragonconrooms/profile) or the Atlanta Hostel if you don't mind MARTA/cab back in the evenings. Look into your favorite tracks to see what they have planned on and off schedule, even if you've been before. It will be a break away from deeper worries and you'll probably return afresh to face things back at home. It helped me. : )
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Date: 2009-07-14 07:45 am (UTC)I say you should come as a way to remind yourself that you can have fun on your own and your own terms. To relax. Most people don't know each other at the con. You break out of your shell in one of the many long lines and start talking. Probably the badge line from the beginning. If you don't go, you'll regret it. Just remember everyone's new to something at the con because things are constantly added. You won't be alone in that.
If you're still nervous, check the various comms on LJ for the tracks/hobbies you're interested in. See if they're active and make some acquaintances and plan to meet up. That way you've got a starting point and you can branch out. Look lost and someone will talk you because most people are friendly. Or so I've notice since I had random strangers try and help me in the past. Which is good.
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Date: 2009-07-14 11:47 am (UTC)I'd add that the Marriot Pulse bar is a good place to meet people too, but a little less crowded than the Hyatt's Parasol.
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Date: 2009-07-14 12:05 pm (UTC)I can't seem to get anyone around here interested in coming as well.
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Date: 2009-07-14 09:17 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-07-14 10:36 pm (UTC)I was very reluctant at first...as I knew no one...but everyone at D*Con seems to be friendly and always open to meeting others.
Don't let being single keep you from. Go for all of those who WISH they could go, but for whatever reason, can't. Just look at all of the above comments....it may be difficult traveling alone when you are used to having a side-kick...but take a chance and just go for yourself.
No one needs anyone else to make the feel "complete." Dragon*Con is my "escpape" each year and it just keeps getting more fun...personally, I can't imagine taking someone with me now ;)
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Date: 2009-07-14 10:52 pm (UTC)I say go and have a blast. Make it all about you.
Besides, even if you go alone you'll be with the rest of us so you won't be really by yourself.
There's always okcupid!
Date: 2009-07-14 11:08 pm (UTC)(I'm thinking of arranging an okcupid meetup during dragoncon). And no, i don't work for them, I just find the site amusing. It definitely beats paying for a dating site!
also, what everyone else said. Go and have a blast!
(oh, and also you could meet someone on craigslist...but....um...yeah)
Re: There's always okcupid!
Date: 2009-07-15 07:12 pm (UTC)Maybe come check out security staff?
Date: 2009-07-15 06:21 am (UTC)Re: Maybe come check out security staff?
Date: 2009-07-15 07:15 pm (UTC)THANKS!!
Date: 2009-07-15 07:17 pm (UTC)Encouraged
Date: 2009-08-02 09:16 am (UTC)Bless you for bringing it up.